Ever wondered what it’s really like to board at Bennies?
Get an inside look at life at Bishop Grandin Boarding House in our Q&A with uThandolwethu Tembe, Head of Boarding, from the everyday routines and friendships to the moments that make boarding feel like home.
Q: How would you describe the heart of boarding at Bennies?
The boys — naturally! They are what keep the beat going at Bishop Grandin Boarding House. Being a boarder isn’t always easy, but when you see the senior boys welcoming and looking after the juniors, that’s where the real magic happens. That’s where brotherhood is born.
Q: What makes boarding here distinctive compared to other schools?
Being the only Boarding House on campus gives us something quite unique. All our boys live under one roof, which creates a very special bond and a collection of experiences that they share together. There is no escaping your brothers — fortunately, they usually enjoy that!
Q: If someone walked into the boarding house on a typical weekday afternoon, what would they see and feel?
The first thing they would probably feel is hungry ; the aroma of dinner normally finds its way through the corridors! Beyond that, there is a real sense of belonging. Boys are chatting about their day, relaxing together and moving around the House. The juniors may still have that slightly nervous “Where am I and what am I doing?” look, while the older boys carry themselves with a sense of comfort, confidence and respect.
Q: How do you balance structure and freedom in the boarding environment?
It’s a tough balance because every boy is different. We try to understand the individual first and then help him fit into the structures and routines he needs. There are non-negotiables like meal times, prep and roll calls, but there is also freedom to gym, attend practices or even pop across to the BP at the appropriate times. We want boys to learn responsibility, not just follow rules.
Q: How are younger boys supported as they transition into boarding life?
Our family system plays a huge role. The older boys generally take the juniors under their wings and show them the ropes ; from where to be and when, to the much more important question of how things actually work in the Boarding House! Staff also keep a close eye on the younger boys through roll calls, meetings and everyday interactions.
Q: Can you share a moment that captures the spirit of the boarding house?
The family cook-off every term is probably the best example. You’ll see matric boys working alongside Grade 8s, staff getting involved, everyone laughing and music playing in the background ; sometimes slightly too loudly for my liking! There is a real sense of togetherness, and it’s something very special to witness.
Q: In what ways do boys grow during their time in boarding?
The obvious answers are independence, respect and discipline. But at Bishop Grandin, I think something deeper develops ; brotherhood. Boys learn to look out for one another, and over time you see a genuine love and respect develop between the brothers.
Q: What do parents often say after their sons have been boarding for a year or two?
“My son has grown so much, what are you feeding him?” is a regular comment. The food we serve in the Boarding House is not like the “good ol days”. The boys are spoilt for choice by our kitchen with a lot of different options.
Q: What’s a moment in your career as Head of Boarding that reminded you why you do this work?
I feel very privileged, and there are many moments I could mention. One that stands out is Mpho Mohau, our Head of Boarding in the Class of 2022. He left school five years ago, yet still comes back to help with our Religious Education retreats around eight times a year. He continues to give his time to God and to his brothers. Seeing that kind of commitment long after leaving school reminds me why what we do matters.
Q: What’s something about boarding at Bennies that outsiders don’t always see?
The boys have fun! From the outside, people often see Boarders rushing from the House to class, back for lunch, then off to sport or activities. What they don’t always see is everything in between ; the table tennis, pool, mini-soccer, conversations and just hanging out together. Those ordinary moments are often where the best memories and friendships are made.
